5 sexiest out-of-bed moves to try
Romantically speaking, when it comes to heating things up, most people think of heading straight to the bedroom. While this makes sense for certain activities, that doesn’t mean you two should be acting chaste as monks outside the boudoir. With a little creativity, seduction and sensuality can happen at any point in your day, whether you’re strolling hand-in-hand down the street or kicking back in front of the TV together. Don’t believe me? See how these couples below managed to turn up the temperature without removing one article of clothing (or at least not until it was more appropriate to do so).
Partial public displays of affection
Pretty much all couples have engaged in some public displays of affection — but what’s even hotter are PDAs that are slightly hidden. Just ask Jess, 29, from Brooklyn, NY: “I had this one boyfriend who would squeeze my thigh under the table whenever we were out to dinner with my friends or relatives,” she says. “It always turned me on — in fact, sometimes I’d have to kick him pretty hard to get him to stop.” What makes semi-PDAs so arousing? Perhaps because it’s a secret only you two are aware of— and a test for your sweetie to maintain his or her composure.
Hand-holding gets hot
Lots of couples hold each other’s hands... but is it a turn-on? Probably not the way most people do it, but that can easily change. The next time you two are at a movie or watching TV with your digits entwined, up the intensity by treating your partner’s mitts to a mini-massage. Brian, 27 from Miami, FL, is one such lucky guy. “Sometimes my girlfriend will massage my hand — palms, fingers and all,” he says. “It feels so good because that part of the body does the most work but is usually neglected. You never realize how sensitive your hands can be until someone actually takes the time to give them a little massage.”
Walk this way
We kid you not, even the way you walk together can be a sensual experience. Laura, 31, from New York, NY, explains how she and her fiancé keep things hot while they’re hoofing it: “When we walk somewhere, occasionally we enhance our experience for a few minutes by ‘hug-walking,’” she says. “Imagine a three-legged race where every body part moves in unison with your partner. Usually, he walks behind me with his arms around me and his face next to mine, over my shoulder with occasional neck kisses. It’s super-cozy, and it feels like we’re the same person!”
Feeling as if you lack enough coordination for that move? Then try this simple, yet sexy, stroll-enhancer from Gretchen, 26, from Memphis, TN. “While I’m walking down the street with my boyfriend, rather than putting my arm around his waist, I like to put my hand in his back pocket,” she says. “Not only is it simply easier to hang on, but I get to squeeze his butt whenever I feel like it! It’s almost like making a sexy move in secret.”
Music-free dance moves
In the mood for a little romance that’ll lead who knows where? Try grabbing your honey for a three-second slow dance; you don’t even need music, and you don’t need to be at a dance club. Jody, 27, of Las Vegas, NV, finds it to be the ultimate turn-on: “Sometimes my boyfriend Dan will raise his arms toward me — kind of out of the blue — and we’ll just embrace and dance slowly for a minute or two. I love it.”
Take a breath together
Sometimes when it comes to seduction, less is more — and that’s exactly why the subtle sensation of your breath against your sweetie’s skin will feel sublime. Adam, 31, from Raleigh, NC, explains how to do it: “I come up behind my girlfriend when she’s doing something mundane like working on the computer or doing housework, and put my arms around her and just breathe on her neck for several seconds. Breath is warm and moist and can be very arousing. It’s sort of like I’m teasing her because I’m about to kiss her, but I’m just breathing instead.”
Sari Locker is a sex educator, TV personality, and author of the bestseller, The Complete Idiot's Guide to Amazing Sex. She has an M.S. in Sexuality Education and was the host of Late Date with Sari on Lifetime Television. Her website is www.sarilocker.com.